Advice for Teens Dealing With Divorce
The many headlines that divorcing celebrity couples receive can sometimes end up providing some positive guidance for teenagers out there who feel alone and are having difficulty adjusting to the news that their parents are divorcing. Of course, even though divorce is quite common, everyone deals with it differently.
Many experts agree that the most important thing to keep in mind if your parents are obtaining a divorce is that it is not your fault. Although difficult for young adults to grasp, people divorce for a variety of reasons, not usually connected to their children. In fact, 73 percent of couples indicated that a lack of commitment was the main reason their marriages didn’t work; most cite that they wish they had worked harder to stay in the marriage.
Your Emotions Are Normal
Yet what many people do not think to also tell teens trying to cope with the reality that their parents are divorcing is: whatever you are feeling, it is ok. You don’t need to act tough for anyone’s sake; everyone around you is capable of understanding that divorce is just plain difficult, no matter who you are. According to experts, divorce often alters what teens envisioned for their future, so taking some time to adjust to this new future is completely normal. It’s also “normal” to be sad, angry, or experience any other emotion you may have at this time.
While many teens would likely experience some relief by talking with their parents about the emotions they are experiencing, at the same time, this can be a very difficult task for some. Some experts have offered tips on how to make it easier, such as by:
- Being careful to avoid attacking your parents;
- Trying to speak calmly and reasonably when possible; and
- Being as specific as possible about how the divorce is affecting you.
And if you simply don’t feel comfortable talking to your parents about what you’re feeling, that’s fine too; many teens choose, instead, to speak with a counselor or therapist.
Dangerous Myths Parents Should Be Aware Of
Experts have also addressed some other myths that can be dangerous; namely, that adolescents are better equipped than younger children to deal with divorce (hence some parents actually putting off divorce until their children reach adolescence). The truth is: divorce is difficult for people of any age, including adult children.
Compassionate Representation during Divorce
Finally, it is important to remember that you will get through this, and you will be alright. Your parents divorcing each other does not mean that they are “divorcing you,” so to speak.
And if you or a loved one is going through divorce, we are here for you and your family. The law office of Sandra Bonfiglio, P.A. provides compassionate guidance and representation for families in Fort Lauderdale, Boca Raton, Broward County, and surrounding areas. Contact us today and we’ll discuss your options, providing you with significant peace of mind.