“From Divorce, a Fractured Beauty”

Recently, the New York Times highlighted one woman’s story of a peaceful life after divorcing her husband. She described a serene layout, her ex-husband and kids casually on the beach together, where “there is no laundry or money or marriage to fight over. Not anymore.” After going through a no-contest judgment of marital dissolution, there were simply taking their children on a happy vacation–together.

A Difficult Impasse

While many couples may feel that they have arrived at an impasse–where their only decision is between staying in a marriage and lying to themselves or “quitting” and getting a divorce–any decision—especially if children are involved—can be especially difficult. Yet for many, a decision is inevitable, as remaking your family can be a healthier path to pursue than being haunted by the anger or anxiety that has come to characterize some relationships.

Rising From the Ashes

This one writer describes it as now being about to “do separately what we could not do together: raise smart, thoughtful, decent kids by extending support and encouragement—to each other.” The message for their children, she realized, was not that their parents did not love each other anymore, but rather that there was and could be love without both parents necessarily also living under the same roof. In other words, as she puts it: “the world of moral absolutes is ill-suited to divorce”—it’s not a matter of right and wrong, but rather of building something else in place of an existing structure that is now broken, like trading in one relationship for another.

Divorce in Florida

We have previously covered new studies which indicate that staying in a marriage does not always provide positive benefits, and that children who come from divorce can often surprise parents in how well they can adapt to new circumstances. Indeed, Florida, like many other states, has abolished the concept of fault as a grounds for marital dissolution, tying into this concept that divorce does not always have to involve the stereotypical courtroom warfare and bitter hostility. And everything else that can accompany divorce—spousal support, child custody, division of assets, etc.—can also be arranged for amicably. In fact, the courts prefer it.

And yet, the process often comes with questions—questions that cannot be answered by judges or court clerks—but only by contacting an experienced family law attorney. Many attorneys in the area can also assist with collaborative dissolution and/or mediation, if that is of interest to a family.

Compassionate Representation during Divorce

If you are dealing with a potential divorce and you live in Boca Raton or Fort Lauderdale, contact Sandra Bonfiglio, P.A. to schedule a consultation and learn more about the services we offer. We are here to guide you, effortlessly, through the process, with your (and your family’s) best interests in mind.